Staying Sober on the 4th of July

Staying Sober on the 4th of July

It Doesn’t Have to Feel Like Missing Out

July 1, 2025
Written By:
Andrew Swenson

There’s something about the 4th of July that makes it feel like everyone’s supposed to be celebrating the same way: grilled burgers, loud music, fireworks... and a drink (or five) in hand. For those of us in recovery, it can feel a little isolating. Like you’re opting out of the fun just by staying sober.

But I don’t think that’s the whole picture. Not really.

Staying sober on the 4th of July isn’t about saying no to fun—it’s about saying yes to something else. Something that might be quieter, maybe a little less flashy, but a lot more real. And that doesn’t mean it’s easy. But it is doable. With a bit of planning, a little support, and honestly, some grace for yourself.

Why This Holiday Can Be... Complicated

We don’t talk enough about how summer holidays hit differently in recovery. Especially early on.

Fourth of July, in particular, seems engineered to test your boundaries.
There’s:

  • An abundance of alcohol

  • A kind of pressure to be "on" and social

  • People who maybe don’t know—or don’t get—what you’re working through

  • And long, often unstructured days where drinking used to fill the gaps

Sometimes, just anticipating it brings a knot to your stomach. You might wonder if staying home is the safer choice. Or if showing up at the usual BBQ might just be asking for trouble. And you’re not wrong to think that way. It can be triggering. It can feel uncomfortable. But that doesn’t mean you’re powerless.

Why This Holiday Can Be... Complicated

Build a Plan (It Doesn’t Have to Be Fancy)

You don’t need a perfect strategy. Just a plan. Some scaffolding around your day.

Decide ahead of time:

  • Where you're going (or if you're staying in)

  • Who you'll be with

  • How you’ll get home if you need to leave early

I’ve found that when I don’t decide these things in advance, I end up in situations I didn’t mean to be in. Not always bad ones—but ones where my sobriety takes a back seat. And that’s not where I want it to be.

Also, bring your own drinks. Something you like. Doesn’t have to be anything fancy, but showing up with your own sparkling water, soda, or whatever makes it easier to sidestep offers. People often won’t even ask what you’re drinking if you already have something in your hand.

What If You Just… Don’t Want to Go?

That’s okay too.

It might feel like you should go somewhere, be around people, not isolate, etc. But sometimes it’s not really about isolation. Sometimes, choosing quiet and safety is what keeps you grounded. It’s what gives you the strength to show up next time.

If staying in feels like the best choice, lean into it. Buy yourself your favorite meal. Watch something nostalgic. Journal, maybe. Step outside when the fireworks start. Feel the night without the noise.

There's nothing wrong with a quiet 4th.

If You Do Want to Celebrate—Do It Your Way

You’re clear-headed. Present. You get to remember the day, the conversations, the sunset, without a hangover in the morning.

A few sober celebration ideas that actually work:

  • Host a daytime BBQ with only non-alcoholic drinks

  • Go to a fireworks show with a sober friend

  • Take a hike in the morning before the crowds

  • Organize a “mocktail contest” if you want to get creative

  • Invite people over for lawn games and root beer floats (surprisingly fun)

It doesn’t have to be a big production. Just something that feels like you.

Practice Saying “No” Without Apologizing

You don’t owe anyone a long explanation.

If someone offers you a drink, it’s fine to just say,
“No thanks.” Or, “I’m good with this right now.” Or even, “Not drinking today, but thanks.”

I’ve said all three. Most people accept it and move on. A few might press a little—maybe out of habit, maybe because your decision makes them uncomfortable. That part isn’t yours to manage. You’re not responsible for how your sobriety makes someone else feel.

Prepare for Triggers. They Happen.

Even when you plan. Even when everything is going fine. Sometimes, a smell, a memory, a voice, a moment—it just hits.

Have something ready:

  • A person to text (or call, if needed)

  • A meeting to drop into, even virtually

  • A short walk to clear your head

  • A reminder on your phone of why you’re doing this in the first place

And if things get too loud, too intense, too anything—you can always leave. No explanation necessary. You’re allowed to protect your peace.

A Quick Note About Relapse

Let’s be honest. Holidays like this can lead to relapse. That doesn’t mean they will, but it happens. If that’s part of your story, I just want to say: you’re not alone. You're not broken. And you're still allowed to come back.

Prevention is key, but so is compassion. If you feel yourself slipping—or even just thinking about it—reach out. Say something to someone. That might be the moment that changes everything.

A Different Kind of Freedom

We talk a lot about freedom on the 4th of July. Freedom of speech. Freedom to gather. Freedom to be ourselves.

But there’s another kind of freedom that matters too, the freedom to live fully without the thing that used to control us.

Sobriety gives that.
Not always easily.
Not always quietly.
But honestly? The fireworks feel different when you watch them with clear eyes.

And waking up on July 5th without regret—there’s something to that. Something worth holding onto.

If you need a list of sober 4th of July events near you, a support group to check out, or just someone to help you figure out what comes next, we’ve got you covered. Step One Recovery Resources connects people in Colorado with real tools, meetings, and support—no judgment, just help.

No matter how you spend your day, remember: staying sober on the 4th of July isn’t about missing out.

It’s about choosing what matters more.

And sometimes, that’s fireworks. Sometimes, it’s a quiet evening. Sometimes, it’s just one more day sober—and that’s more than enough.

I am not a medical professional or licensed counselor. The content on this blog is based on personal experience and insights from my own recovery journey. It is intended for informational and inspirational purposes only and should not be considered medical, therapeutic, or professional advice.

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